I work collaboratively with individuals; treating everybody as an individual because we are all different and unique. I aim to create a safe and secure environment where I can support you in developing greater self-awareness and understanding of the conscious and unconscious causes of your problems.
I consider therapy to be a joint process; I won’t tell you what to do but will rather engage with you in exploring the dilemmas that you seek to address. I will listen to you and ask questions, suggest possible patterns and often link these to the past, suggest techniques that may be helpful in coping in the short term and work with you in understanding what is happening, why it is happening and working on new ways of being.
Psychotherapy aims to remove the causes of the presenting symptom(s) and enable clients to answer the question ‘why’ in relation to the current problem. In this way the therapy enables clients to live their lives as they would wish.
It is likely that couples coming to therapy have brought relating patterns from their own childhood experiences. Some of these are positive and help to sustain and evolve our relationships whilst others have no place in the present. As humans we tend to repeat behaviours unconsciously. Becoming aware of the way we relate provides us with a choice. A choice to do something new rather than endlessly repeating a pattern that we learnt as children or was passed down to us – possibly through generations.
It is often useful to explore such areas as attachment styles, communication styles, conflict management -including how conflicts are ‘repaired’, communication, negotiation around difference, parenting styles, personality types and how these interact, issues around sex, money and extended family, cultural differences, gender differences and neurodiversity.
We may also explore what is working well within the relationship – couples in conflict can often lose sight of the positive aspects of the relationship when becoming problem focused over time. Perhaps unresolved trauma, depression or anxiety in one or both partners is creating difficulty in relating.
Please contact me for more information on the groups that I currently have running. Currently, these will be over Zoom.
I tend to work with group clients who wish to work on personal growth and positive change through the group medium. I use my different therapeutic approaches within the group and most groups will have a strong mindfulness component. I am also trained to use Gestalt group techniques which can be both fun but also powerful in promoting growth.